What I learned about alignment from our wedding day
On September 2, 2018, we got married at a jazz club in Denver. It wasn’t traditional, and that’s exactly why I loved it.
As we celebrate our 7th wedding anniversary today, I’ve been reflecting on our wedding.
I LOVED our wedding.
In fact, I ask Jackson, my husband, every year if we can do it again. Maybe for our 10th anniversary, we’ll throw a big party. (Fingers crossed!)
What I loved most about our wedding was that it was so “us”.
Nocturne, the jazz club we got married in, does not normally host weddings, but Jackson is a classically trained musician, so we’d been there a few times for the music, and we loved it. We loved the urban neighborhood, the Art Deco vibes, and the way the light filtered into the old warehouse windows. So we approached them and asked if we could host our wedding there.
We got married on stage, between the drum set and the piano, and it was perfect.
In planning our wedding, we discussed what was important to us—good food, good music, and the people we love.
Nothing else mattered.
We used those anchors as a filter for all the decisions we made for our wedding planning. It made it easy to know where we wanted to spend our time, money, and energy—and where we didn’t.
For example, we decided not to do any decorations or flowers, since the wedding venue spoke for itself, and it would be one more expense and logistic we didn’t want. I remember my sister calling me a week or two before the wedding and asking, “are you sure you don’t want flowers?” “Yup!” I said. (She did nudge me to have a bouquet, which I was very happy I had, so I'll be sure to thank her for that!)
Instead of letting social media, wedding magazines, or what other people do for their weddings dictate our day, we stayed true to what we wanted, and it made it that much easier to enjoy instead of stressing.
Reflecting on that day reminds me of how powerful it can be to block out the noise and choose what matters most.
This is what it means to be aligned.
To know what is important to you and feel confident using that information as a filter for the decisions you make.
Some questions you can ask yourself:
Where are you standing firm in your alignment?
And where are you letting outside influences steer your choices?
And if you need me, I'll just be over here scrolling through our wedding photos for the next few hours.
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About the author: Kelly (Underell) Stevens is an alignment coach and speaker dedicated to helping women leaders and entrepreneurs grow their impact and live life on their own terms by giving them the tools to choose less and show up for themselves. Learn more at www.kellystevens.co.